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Articles -- Self-confidence

Many years ago, when I was a computer programmer, I was given a program to re-write. There were no specifications - just an old version of the program with a 'zillion' patched-in changes.

It was an extremely complex program, and as I looked through it, I said to one of the junior programmers, "I have no idea if I can do this."

She looked at me as if I was on my way to the guillotine. Her expression surprised me, because I didn't feel fear. I actually felt excited by the challenge and jumped in with enthusiasm.

Happily, I did complete the task successfully, but even if I hadn't, I would still feel good about myself because I know that one can't always succeed.

I see failure as a learning experience. When I failed a driver's test, it taught me to get back to learning mode and practice so I could try again. When I failed a Philosophy course, it taught me that Philosophy was not for me!

Self-confidence is not so much a belief that you will succeed in every endeavor, but a willingness to try something challenging and to accept success or failure as a part of the learning process.

It relies on an inner feeling of worthiness that says, "I'm OK even if I fail at something." And this feeling gives you the courage to try new challenges.

Exercise
You can CHOOSE thinking patterns that support a feeling of self-confidence. Let go of the need for perfection and the worry about what others think of you. Hold on to the feeling of "ok-ness" and focus on experience, learning and on doing what you truly enjoy.

When your thoughts and efforts shift from what others think of you to the task at hand, you will be able to move forward more effectively and you will also be able to experience the pure joy of learning.


 
 
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