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Articles -- The law of attraction

"You attract into your life whatever you think about" -- The Law of Attraction ---

So many people have become confused about this notion because it seems to make sense, but positive affirmations often don't work. This is because of a fundamental misunderstanding.

The Law of Attraction is not a way of getting what you want. It is simply a statement of how the universe works. Like dominoes falling, your thoughts trigger an automatic series of events. But it's not only conscious thoughts; our emotions also have a powerful creative force.

When you use affirmations to try and get what you want, if your underlying feeling is "I want...", you are basically telling the universe that you are in a state of lack, and you will just end up creating more of that. This is why affirmations so often fail.

If you really want abundance, you have to learn to ALREADY BE in a state of feeling abundance now. And the key to that is to be grateful for what you have.

Gratitude involves fully enjoying what you have now. If money seems to be a problem, reach into your pocket and hold some change in your hand and realize how lucky you are to have that. If relationships are a challenge, think about the positive aspects of a relationship that you have and about what you are learning from this relationship. If health is an issue, think of an aspect of your health that is good and feel grateful.

Whatever your circumstances, it could always be worse, so being grateful for what you have is possible. But it's important to notice what happens when you try this.

The Saboteur / Protector
If you're holding some money in your hand and telling yourself how lucky you are, a little voice will probably pipe up and say "That won't get you very far!" This is you inner saboteur. And most (if not all) of its worries are about the future. Its thoughts might be... "How will I pay my bills" / "What if my partner leaves me?" / "What if my health gets worse?"

You may try to quiet that voice by using affirmations, but in truth, that voice will not quiet down until you open a dialogue with it. When you do that, you will start to realize that its concerns are real and important. It is really trying to protect you. It is really your Protector.

Imagine it as an inner sub-personality, and invite it to sit down and tell you its concerns Acknowledge the value of its thoughts and outline how you will deal with the issues it is alerting you to. Talk to your saboteur/protector in the same way that you would talk to a dear friend who had the same worries. Do what is reasonable to prevent a negative future outcome, and assure your Protector that you will handle whatever comes up.

When you value that inner voice and address its concerns in a respectful and caring way, you will find that it will calm down and you will then be able to move into a state of gratitude and a feeling of abundance now.

When you are in that state, you will find that more abundance will come your way. That's just the way the universe works. But you can't do this exercise in order to get abundance, because the feeling of "wanting" will creep in and you will get stuck there. You have to be truly grateful for what you have now.

Let me end with a story...
Many years ago, my brother walked into a store with his three little boys trailing after him. The store owner came up to him and said, "You are a rich man". Paul was surprised and said, "No I'm not a rich man!" The store owner looked at Paul's boys and said emphatically, "You ARE a rich man". Paul turned and looked at his boys and with a big grin, he said, "You're right. I'm a VERY rich man!"

So many things that we already have can bring us happiness. When we learn to truly revel in the joy that those things bring, we strike a chord inside ourselves that will reverberate throughout the universe like a wave and expand.

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